But as time has gone on I’ve heard things and I’ve done my research into how my condition might affect my chances of getting pregnant, what might happen, you know, in terms of everything around motherhood I suppose and how difficult life can be to raise a child anyway but with a condition that leaves you sometimes not mobile, you know, how would that work.And but again, I think it’s is gaining other people’s knowledge, you know.Perhaps not in the first five minutes…but I am a strong believer in laying all cards on the table on the first date (unless it’s a brief encounter!) There is always a chance to bring it up casually – I have been horrible about going on and on about RA because men just let me talk…and talk….I I’ve talked to a lot of people that have got my condition and have had children and gone on to have big families and they struggle but they do it, you know, because that’s what they want to do and I wouldn’t ever want to be held back from, you know, having a family just because of fear, I suppose, of what could happen or what might happen.
It can be brutal – and remember that stress is our kryptonite.
My feet felt like they were on fire and they ached constantly, all the time, and they were tight.
My hands, um, all my joints ached, my wrist, my fingers, they felt swollen, and it got to the point where I couldn't close—I couldn't make a fist. I didn't like my little girls seeing me always in pain and not being able to button their tops or comb their hair. I was told by the rheumatologist that I had rheumatoid arthritis.
So that’s why I guess I’m thinking about it now because I know that there’s quite an actual long period of time between when I say, “I’m ready to have children.” To actually physically having a child because, you know, you don’t know how long it’s going to actually take for conception.
You know you’ve got, obviously, nine months for the birth, then you’ve got that period of a year when you have to be clean of medication.